How to Get Your Groom Excited for Your Engagement Session
Let’s be real—getting engaged and planning your dream wedding is beyond exciting! And of course, stunning engagement photos are part of the dream. But while we’re over here obsessing over Pinterest boards and outfit inspo, our grooms? They might not be quite as enthusiastic about stepping in front of the camera.
If your fiancé isn’t exactly jumping for joy at the thought of an engagement session, don’t worry—you’re not alone! The good news? He will have a blast once he realizes it’s not about awkward poses but about having fun together. A great photography experience makes all the difference, and that’s where these five simple tips come in.
1. Be Patient and Encouraging
Chances are, you’ve already deep-dived into Pinterest and your photographer’s blog, dreaming up the perfect engagement session. But your groom? Probably not so much. He might be feeling a little nervous about what to expect, so this is your chance to cheer him on.
Remind him that this is a relaxed, fun experience—not a high-stakes modeling gig. And just like anything new, it might take a minute to warm up. Your patience and encouragement will help him feel at ease and actually enjoy the process.
2. Explain the Purpose of an Engagement Session
Your engagement session isn’t just about cute photos (although, let’s be honest, that’s a major perk). The real goal? Getting comfortable in front of the camera before the big day.
Think of your wedding photographer as your personal paparazzi—snapping all the special moments from “I do” to your epic dance floor moves. The engagement session is a low-pressure way to get used to their style, so by the time your wedding day rolls around, you’ll feel like total pros.
Let your fiancé know it’s not about looking “perfect.” It’s about capturing you two—laughing, being silly, and soaking in this exciting chapter together.
3. Show Him Engagement Photos You Love
Fear of the unknown can make anyone nervous, and if he has no clue what to expect, that could be adding to his hesitation.
Take a few minutes to scroll through your photographer’s website or blog together. Show him some engagement sessions you love and talk about why you’re excited. Seeing real couples looking natural and having fun will help him visualize the experience—and feel way more prepared.
4. Turn It Into a Fun Date Night
If you frame the engagement session as a fancy photoshoot, it might feel like a chore. Instead, make a whole date out of it!
Plan something fun before and after—grab coffee, take a walk, or go out for dinner afterward to celebrate. When you’re already in a great mood and enjoying each other’s company, that energy will carry over into your session, making for genuine, joy-filled photos.
5. Make It Personal to Your Love Story
This is about you two—not just pretty pictures. The best engagement sessions feel authentic because they reflect who you are as a couple.
Pick a location that holds special meaning (like where you had your first date or where he proposed). Or, during the session, take a moment to tell him five things you love about him—it’ll instantly make him feel more relaxed and connected. The more personal the experience, the more natural and genuine the photos will be.
Bonus: Share This with Your Engaged Besties!
If you found these tips helpful, pass them along to your newly engaged friends! The more grooms we can get excited about engagement sessions, the better.
And if you’re still looking for a wedding photographer who makes the whole experience effortless and fun—well, you know where to find me! 😉
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